Full disclosure, this is not my first… or second… rodeo. Regardless of how I got here, the fact is that I have some real experience in tying (and untying) the knot. While I am confident that the “third time is a charm,” something I’ve become increasingly aware of is the practical reality that grooms are often (not always) more of an afterthought in the world of weddings, elopements, and life partner celebrations.
From a commercial perspective, this is not surprising, as many companies capitalize on anything with the word “wedding” in it — and have created a market geared toward brides-to-be.
That said, my goal is less about disrupting societal norms — and more about helping grooms find the time and inspiration to prepare for a major new chapter in life with a level of fun, poise, and confidence that reinforces and supports their relationship with themselves and their chosen partner.
“Grooms are often more of an afterthought in the world of weddings…”
In my experience, the most important part of being a fiancé / groom-to-be is intentionality and purpose. Looking through that lens each step of the way creates a more enjoyable dynamic, which ultimately builds confidence. For me, that means creating the space and support for my fiancée to shine brightly and beautifully while also weaving in details and moments that matter to me.
This learned experience helped establish the pillars that I keep coming back to.
Love Is a Dance
Relationships are a dance. Even when one partner takes the lead, it does not diminish the importance or visibility of the following partner. That dynamic never changes. Celebrating life partnership should be the same way regardless of who’s leading. Equally, taking the lead is not for the faint of heart and requires acting from a place of servant leadership. In other words, the best leaders often know how to engage from a place of quiet strength and confidence. In that way, leadership involves a lived experience more than lust for the limelight.
Photos: Emma Derieux
This mindset isn’t abstract. And it’s easier to apply by starting with practical choices that create cumulative impact. In each entry, I’ll share some groom season game to help illustrate.